"That happens to me all the time being accused of something I did do . Or that it the way you say it . all I ever wanted to do is help people . like friends and family . Now my husband of 28 years has been talking on the phone with a woman 20 year younger than me for 6 months 200 times in a month at a hour at a time . and tells me nothing happen what do you think ? and no one told me that they even talked to each other and I know her. why then did they not say anything? and he wont talk to me what would you do ."

I am a ferm believer that honesty is the best policy. I can't say for sure what I think because I do not know both sides of your situation, however talking on the phone is not a crime (yet anyway) and if you had known they were speaking you may have taken it as a threat. Do you know what they were talking about ??? It could just be like a brother and sister conversation, or maybe she had issues she was going to him about.? The age matter is obsolete. You say you know this other person why do you not ask her since he wont talk. Is she a professional? at an hour at a time it would look to me as therapy of some sort. Not to be rude but has the conversation between you and your husband been good or spiteful?
May the words you hear bring you understanding ** 28 years is a long time to talk to one person, and jealousy is a sickness that kills**
I know that I am hard to understand and some think that I speak in riddles.... maybe he is planning something special for you, and if he is don't spoil the surprise.

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